Lewis thought, in what he considered a state of sorrow, he could describe this feeling to others by making what he referred to as a map of sorrow.
He finally had to admit sorrow is a process not a state. This makes perfect sense to anyone who has experienced sorrow.
On page sixty-nine of his book he makes this statement: “Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.” Lewis ends his book by putting sorrow and grief in their correct perspectives. I think his conclusion is very helpful to a person who has never lost a spouse and also to those of us who have lost a spouse. I guess you could say he is making a confession, and it comes through clearly on pages seventy-one and seventy-two: “The notes have been about myself, and about H., and about God. In that order. The order and the proportions exactly what they ought not to have been.” He acknowledges later the order should have been God, H., and himself.
It is very clear in the closing pages of his book he comes to the conclusion any joy he has experienced with his wife who is now with the Lord, has been a wonderful gift given to Him by a loving God. And he will continue to praise Him for the gift. He is at peace, and he knows his beloved is also.
Grief and sorrow are both a part of life. But praise God all of us can bear what may come our way because of the tender care of a loving God. And many times He will use us to reach out to other suffering saints. Let us all be ready to truly help each other as we travel the path on which God has placed us.